We started MommyBeta to give a wider voice and audience to the email chains pinging back and forth between the four of us. Though most of our discussions now make it to the web, we still email about touchier subjects. Last night we wrote a (partially) wine-fueled thread that I think deserves to see the light of day. It’s not fair for us to hide our frustrations and you shouldn’t have to either.
With the gals’ permission, I’ve included some of the most relatable quotes below:
“Okay I've had 1.5 glasses of wine so I'm feeling a little loose with the tongue but what I really want.... Is a little break. I love my family and I want to inhale the scent of them 24/7. But I also want some rest.”
“And I want to not feel like my old self is so far behind me that I sometimes burst into tears if I am able to finish a cup of tea while it is still warm.”
“You bring up a good point about all the prepping and not just being able to say "see ya!!" I think that is what gets me. It frustrates me when I have to give specific instructions about exactly what needs to be done. Sometimes I just want to say "Figure it out!" hahaha. But then I think about it and I know this is the situation I've created. These are the expectations I've created. “
“These kids are A LOT. It's just constant. Even when they are asleep there are mounds of laundry to fold, boobs to pump and puree pouches to order. I'm exhausted. All. The. Time. And it's not even the being up at night (I'm only losing about an hour or two a night), it's the being ON all day long. I seriously don't know how people have more than two kids, or how women cope with husbands that don't help.”
“I just have to keep reminding myself of how unglamorous having an infant is--always being in pajamas covered in spitup doesn't make anyone feel sexy. But I straightened my hair today, put on a dress and boots, and felt 10x better about everything than I did the day before. I think I'm going to have to force myself into real clothes more often.”
“We shouldn't let anyone tell us that it's easy for anyone else and we shouldn't feel bad about feeling overwhelmed.”