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To Party or Not To Party? 


In just a few short months Reese is going to turn two. Can you believe it? The time has just flown since her birth. Last year for her first birthday we hosted a birthday party, that was more for us than her. Brunch, party favors, cake, pinata and ballons! We celebrated that we had successfully made it through the first year as new parents and toasted to many more. 

This year I'm not quite sure what to do...if we'll do anything. I've been pinning birthday ideas and am leaning toward a little tea party. But Josh and I have also thrown out the idea of a family vacation to celebrate her 2nd birthday. Maybe Hawaii?! Warm weather, the beach, Mai Tai's. Or maybe just visiting each set of Grandparents and spending time with them. 

This all sounds fabulous! But would I be depriving Reese of a special memory of having an actual party with cake, ice cream, decorations and friends? Would I regret not having these memories for myself? No photos? I've also considered doing the family vacation and then having a very small birthday party - inviting just 2-3 of her buddies for some cake and ice cream.

Please weigh in here. What did / will you do for birthday No. 2? 

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First rule of life. If someone offers you a trip. TAKE IT!!! Although I've never been, I believe they DO still have cake and ice cream in Hawaii. :)

In all seriousness, last March we went to Walt Disney World in Florida for my son's 11th (and my 45th) birthday. He had a fantastic time, and MUCH less stressful on me. The year before he invited 10 kids to his party and only 2 showed up. Last year he ate at T-Rex, which is a restaurant with dinosaurs. He couldn't be happier.

Next July I'm debating going to Aulani, Disney's resort in Hawaii, for my twin girls' 10th birthday. AS long as you're together and have fun, the friends and relatives can celebrate when you're back.

April 9, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterPaul C

Awe, Paul C, you bring up such a good point. I think you're right. As long as we're together as a family her birthday will be special no matter what. Thank you for this perspective!

April 9, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAlex

For my son's 2nd birthday I just set up a little cookout at my mother in law's. Nothing big or fancy. It was just my of parents, my husband's parents, my brother and his fiancee, and my husband's brother. We just did hot dogs and hamburgers and my mom made cupcakes.

April 9, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer B.

Honestly - and I may get flamed for this - I blew off the kid's 2nd birthday. He's a January baby, and the holiday celebration over here just got to be too much. We'd been celebrating for like three months by the time his birthday came. He was too little to remember anything anyway.

We did make it up on his 3rd birthday by booking a party for all his little friends at the Indoor Playground. (It's a big warehouse space with bouncy castles and ride-on toys and stuff. Perfect for a winter party in a cold zone.)

April 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterLaura

If it were me, I'd want to do a little party no matter what. And by that I mean at least having mommy, daddy, Reese, a cupcake and candles. You don't need a big party, and you can definitely do something like this while on a little trip, but I think that ritual of singing and blowing out the candles is so special. I know the babies weren't into it last year, but that was Nic's favorite part of his birthday this year! Plus, you'll want at least a few birthday pictures :)

April 10, 2012 | Registered CommenterNathalee

I think a family trip would be perfect. :) As far as R "missing out" on a party, I think several days of special time with Mommy and Daddy will be more memorable (in a manner of speaking) than one hectic afternoon of cake and party busyness.

April 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterBryan

The day will be special no matter where you are. Who says you can't have pics if you don't have a party? Of course you can! Reese will be so happy because she will be celebrating with her two most favorite people.

April 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer

Thanks so much for all this feedback and support. I'm still not sure exactly what we'll do but at least I now have a couple ideas that I feel comfortable with. No matter which option I go with I will certainly have cake with candles and take pics!

April 10, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterAlex

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