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Thursday
May172012

Why I Chose Not to Attempt a VBAC

 

As you may know, I ended up delivering Nic via C-section. When thinking about baby #2, I often thought I would try for a vaginal birth after Cesarean (VBAC), and it was one of my first questions for my OB at our 8 week appointment. The news wasn’t what I expected. Our first picture with our new baby will probably look a lot like this, but this time I'll have makeup and contacts on!

My doctor explained that because the problem during my first delivery was failure to progress, that my chances of having a successful VBAC are only about 10%.  She explained that if you have a C-section because of fetal distress or breach presentation, you have about a 50% chance of having a successful VBAC. I wasn’t quite sad when I heard this, just surprised. I had always thought that VBAC was a real option for me, but a 10% success rate didn’t seem worth the stress.

You see, if I were to go for a VBAC, I think I’d put everything I could into it. I’d hire a doula, probably switch to a more VBAC-friendly OB and commit myself to the most natural birth possible. And after putting all of that energy into a VBAC, if I ended up with a C-section, I think I would be truly disappointed. For me, it just comes down to not wanting to set myself up for that. I wasn’t disappointed the first time around, and I don’t want to be this time.

I think if my C-section had been for different reasons, I would have more seriously considered a VBAC. My husband was never into the idea (he still cringes when we talk about how much pain I was in right before I got the epidural), but I know he would have supported me if it was really what I wanted.

It turns out, that I’m perfectly ok that my babies come out “through the sunroof.” Although I’ll never have that experience where they pull the baby out and lay it directly on my chest (the one thing I feel I really missed with my C-section), I do get some solace in knowing that my parents will be in town and ready to watch Nic when I leave for the hospital on August 1st.

 

Note: I’m not a doctor and am just relaying, as accurately as possible, what my doctor told me. Please, please talk to your own doctor about the odds of a successful VBAC and the risks involved. Also, I’m not looking to be convinced into going for a VBAC. I know that do still have the option, but I have chosen not to go that route.

Reader Comments (9)

good for you, you made the best decision for YOURSELF and YOUR baby (and husband and son). I can't stand when people start with their anti-c-section lectures. to each her own and we should be supportive and free of judgement!

May 17, 2012 | Unregistered Commentermelissa

Have you heard about this:
http://gratefulforgrace.com/2012/04/family-centered-c-section/

I've had six c-sections and I so wish I could have had a c-section done this way! It seems to be as close to a VBAC as a c-section can be. I have a precious friend who just had her second c/s and had one of these. It was beautiful!

Hope yours goes beautifully!

Nathalee I can totally relate to this post. With my first pregnancy I was induced, had an epidural and still ended up with a c-section. Same story..failure to progress. I was truly disappointed. I now have 3 children ages 5 1/2, 2 1/2 and 16 weeks. They were all delivered by c-section. I actually went into labor with baby #2 but still had the section. All of this to say my babies made it safely into the world. Maybe c-sections are harder in some ways but I know lots of Moms who have delivered vaginally that have a whole other set of issues. You just do what feels most comfortable to you.

I too could've pushed the issue with my second to have a VBAC, however, I also didn't want to set myself up for disappointment. In the end I had healthy beautiful babies.

Best of luck.

May 17, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterJessie

While I respect your choice, I'd personally talk to other Dr's and see what they feel the % is for a successful VBAC for someone in your shoes. Everyone's body births at it's own pace. "Failure to progress" sometimes means "you're not going fast enough for the doctor's time clock". I hope you have peace about what ever you decide and have a happy and healthy little one!

May 17, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterDeanna F

Good for you nathalee! As long as you are comfortable with your decision that's all that matters. Can't wait to see pics of baby #2!

May 17, 2012 | Unregistered Commenterheidi mendes

Thank you ladies! Mindy: I just watched the Family Centered C-Sections video--what an amazing concept! I don't think my husband could handle dropping the drape (not even sure if I could), bit the immediate skin to skin looks soooooo wonderful. In fact, I'm going to ask my OB if this could be an option for us! Thank you so so much for bringing this to my attention!

May 18, 2012 | Registered CommenterNathalee

Nathalee,
I'm so glad you can glean something from the option! I hope your OB is open. You could even bring the video OR give the name of the OB who did it our our town (Dr. Liz Wilfong, Kerrville, TX). I like the video because it shoes the medical side of why doctors think it's a good idea.

BTW, I'll have a post up this week from the girl who had the family centered c-section a few weeks ago, with photos. :)

blessings as you pursue!

I just watched The Family Centered C-Sections video. It was amazing! I wish that I could have had this procedure done when our Natty was born 31 years ago. The instant bonding effect would have helped me after her birth. I immediately felt a Great Loss when she was delivered by C-Section and wisked away from me. It took a week before I could nurse her and I don't think that my milk ever came in. So Natty, It is my hope that your OB can provide you with this type of Amazing Birth!

May 21, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterNana

I just watched The Family Centered C-Sections video. It was amazing! I wish that I could have had this procedure done when our Natty was born 31 years ago. The instant bonding effect would have helped me after her birth. I immediately felt a Great Loss when she was delivered by C-Section and wisked away from me. It took a week before I could nurse her and I don't think that my milk ever came in. So Natty, It is my hope that your OB can provide you with this type of Amazing Birth!I

May 23, 2012 | Unregistered CommenterNana

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