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Entries in Napping (4)


Losing the Last Nap

Oh naptime, the sole respite of the weary caregiver. Even if it’s full of laundry folding, returning work emails or wrangling another non-napping child, it’s still a little slice of almost-peace in the whirlwind of the day.

Watching the talking veggies at Gilroy Gardens instead of napping.Well, it’s just about over for me—Z is ready to drop his nap. I let him stay up all day about six days a week, but he’ll still go down on days that I really need him to sleep. (Like this week when I’m planning to put him down for a nap when our new, awesome teenage babysitter comes while I go to a work lunch and a doctor appointment. It’s hard for me to be in the house with both of them awake for five hours and I don’t want to scare her away. Hopefully, Z’s weekly nap will give her at least few hours with only Nic awake).

There is something pretty cool about losing the nap though. We can do family outings late in the day and enjoy longer outings with less planning. For instance, we went to Gilroy Gardens yesterday on the spur of the moment, even after we went to a morning Kindergarten playdate for Nic. We played in splash pads, spun on giant garlics and ate pizza until bedtime. It was awesome.

I know I’ll miss the nap on most days, at least until the boys start school in the fall. (Today I fell asleep in the middle of Nic’s bedtime out of sheer exhaustion.) But I am looking forward to that impromptu, more fluid fun that our looser schedule will allow. Bring it on! 

The last double nap, likely ever.


Separation Anxiety—HELP!


We’ve been lucky that Nic’s never been the kid who cried when we left him with grandma (grandma is gratefulImage by TacitRequiem on Flickr. Used under Creative Commons. for this too!).  However, just in the past few days, naps and bedtime (and getting back to sleep in the middle of the night) have become a major struggle.  Separation anxiety has finally set in.  He clings to me, tries to climb up my arms and cries “MAMAMAMAMAMA.”  It breaks my heart, but I know I can’t sleep with him on the couch every night (like I did the other night).

So, what do I do?  At nap time yesterday, I waited intervals of about 15 minutes, went back into his room, gave him a big hug and then left.  After two times (and some Ke$ha) he fell asleep.  Is this the right approach?  Other suggestions? 


Sleeping Kitty

I couldn't help share this picture. Tazzy fell asleep in the corner of her crib curled up like a kitten. :)  She is a crazy wild sleeper. While she sleeps all the way through the night, she moves a ton! I'll periodically check on her via the monitor and she is never in the same position. She gets this from her Daddy because I usually wake up in the same position I fell asleep in.


I Don’t Think This is What They Mean by Co-Sleeping

In the last week, I’ve gotten desperate.  I’ve tried everything to get Nic to sleep.  Two weeks ago, he was taking two to three naps per day (totaling at least three hours) and sleeping 11 hours straight through the night.  And then everything changed. 

He got sick.  He was congested and coughing, he didn’t want to sleep, and we didn’t want to let him cry when we knew how uncomfortable he was.  We were patient with him and let him get away with a few missed naps and night feedings.  But now he’s better, and he’s still not sleeping.

And when I say I’ve tried everything, I mean it.  The other day, I actually climbed into his crib to see if me snuggling him would help him sleep.  I’m pretty sure even people who co-sleep would say that’s a bit extreme.  Last night, I actually held him in my glider all night long because every time I laid him down, he'd sit right up and rock back and forth for as long as I would let him.  Currently, Nic is asleep in his stroller in his room because the little straps keep him from sitting up and rocking.

This post isn’t about asking for advice.  I’m going to be assertive and let you guys know that I’m taking advice from Nic’s pediatrician rather than the interwebs.  I guess this post is part venting and part acknowledgement of those people who told me, “You’ll get a great routine, and then everything will change and you have to start over.”

So, as I start over, I’m taking a big deep breath and instead of stressing over him not napping regularly, I’m trying to focus on enjoying the extra time we have to play together.