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Entries in naps (8)


A Week of Transitions


I don't think we could have squeezed any more into last week. A big birthday, bye-bye to nap time and hello to a big girl bed. 

Reese turned 3 and we celebrated with several little parties. I had a blast planning because this is the first year I knew she'd really 'get' the whole birthday thing. The night before her birthday I decorated a table with sparkly wrapping paper, party hats & whistles, balloons and a few gifts. I felt like a kid on Christmas Eve and couldn't wait for morning. Sure enough, she loved it all. 

Along with her turning 3 we decided to transition her long late afternoon nap to "Quiet Time." She was taking these late afternoon two hour naps and then playing in her crib for one to two hours at night before finally falling asleep around 9pm-10pm. Too late for me! I didn't mind except she'd be so tired in the morning. Now, with no nap we put her to bed at 7pm and she wakes up rested at 7am. The only thing is that with no naps, it makes for a really tough evening. On the flip side, my husband and I have our nights to ourselves. 

Lastly, we finally moved her into a 'big girl' bed, which is really just a toddler bed. We just took off the side of her crib and now she can climb in and out. She's handled it really well. Last night within the first 30 min she got up 3x and we just kept walking her back to bed. She finally fell asleep and stayed there til morning. Tonight she got into bed and was fast asleep within minutes. Phew!

Anyway, tons of transitions happening over here. Any suggestions on how to keep a toddler in her room for a full hour during "Quiet Time?" Reese can do 30-45 minutes but then likes to come out because....well, now she can. 


No Sleep 'Til Bedtime


I mourn the loss of the afternoon nap. It was that peaceful interlude when I could get some work done, fold some laundry, have alone time with the baby, or God forbid, sit down with Mad Men or a magazine for a few minutes. Alas, those times are gone. A blissful, surprise double nap!

Nic dropped his nap sometime after Christmas. It had been a long time in the making—an hour spent playing in bed before actually falling asleep, the occasional no-nap day—but now it’s the norm, not the exception. He goes strong all day long. ALL DAY LONG.

It’s fun having a lot of one-on-one play time with him, but it’s been a real struggle getting my work done, and as you may have noticed, blogging has taken a backseat. I miss the Interwebs, but mama’s got clients to service. (My husband says that doesn’t sound right. You know what I mean, right?)

And I admit it: Sometimes I just have to put on the Lorax. When I do that, there’s a 90% chance he’ll fall asleep while watching it—I have the pee-stained couch to prove it. 


The Transition: Two Naps to One Nap


Reese is 13.5 months and I’m still putting her down for two naps - only for her morning naps, 75% of the time she ends up just playing in her crib for an hour. I go in after 30 min to check her diaper (because if she is pooped she definitely will not fall asleep) but lately she’s not pooped. Is she ready to transition to one nap? 

On the days where she skips her morning nap I get her out of her crib, feed her a snack/bottle and then take her out, usually to the park for an hour. Then I give her an early lunch and off to bed she goes for her “second” nap around noon. By this time she’s exhausted and passes out. She usually sleeps about 2 hours, sometimes 3.

According to Marc Weisenbluth, author of "Healthy Sleep Habits", Happy Child “At twelve months of age, 82 percent of children have two naps and 17 percent take only a single afternoon nap. But by fifteen months of age, 43 percent of children are taking two naps and 56 percent take a single afternoon nap.”

I feel like transitioning to just one nap at 13.5 months is a bit young. Don’t you think? But maybe Reese is just part of the 17 percent who are ready for one nap. Reese seems to do just fine off of one two-hour nap (although sometimes a bit tired in the early evening) so I should just face the facts. On the days when Reese takes just one nap, like Weisenbluth suggests, I simply put her to bed a little earlier. This seems to be working for us. He also says that the transition to one nap can take a few months.

How old was your little one when they transitioned from two naps to one nap? How did you know they were ready? And was the transition easy?  


A Very Happy 4th of July Weekend

We took our first long road trip with Tazzy to Tahoe this weekend and so far it's been the best family trip ever. I wrote about our most recent trouble while traveling to LA so now I want to share my good experience since I was a bit anxious about how Tazzy was going to handle the long drive and sleeping away from home.

The car drive up and back turned out to be smooth sailing. Not only did we luckily miss traffic, but we decided to leave the city around Tazzy's bedtime and so she slept the entire 3.5 hour drive. Phew!

The entire family got to sleep in! We realized that the busy street traffic that Tazzy's bedroom faces wakes her up early every morning and similar to what Nathalee discovered (about Nic sleeping in later with black out curtains), Tazzy does much better in a dark room. Just part of city living.. and that makes for another post. 

Anyway, we enjoyed the fresh mountain -- taking long walks, boat rides on the lake, and Josh and I got to enjoy some time with the adults. It was such a nice getaway and a great time to reconnect as a family. I can't wait to take our next family vacation. Some take aways from my trip.

- Hire a babysitter. Find a local babysitting service like We Care 4 Kidz for at least one night so that you can enjoy some adult time. Josh and I went out to dinner with our friends and had a blast.

- Understand what's available to you. For example, we didn't need to bring a pack'n play or toys because our friends that we stayed with had this stuff. The lighter you can pack, the better. 

- Try to keep your baby's nap routine but allow time for adventure! For the most part we planned activities around Tazzy's naps but on one day we planned ahead for being out all day. For us this is important because Tazzy is just a happier baby when rested so she was literally the happiest baby on the block, which makes Mommy and Daddy happy parents.  

- Beware of the sun. Be sure to check out Jennifer's latest post on sunscreen here. We made sure that Tazzy was always wearing a hat in the sun to shade her face, applied lots of sunscreen and tried to keep her hydrated. 

- Again, I agree with Nathalee on the spare bedroom but if you don't have one, try using the bathroom. We set set up our pack'n play along with a baby monitor and sound machine and Tazzy has never slept better. No kidding, two out of the three days we had to wake her at 8am! Too bad I am so used to waking up at 6:30 that I couldn't sleep in. :) 



Update: Sleep Training, Limited CIO

Here is an update to the sleep training that I started with Taz when she was 11 weeks old using a limited CIO method. No, I didn't leave my child there to cry all night but I also didn't immediately run to her every time she cried and I knew she was just tired. I feel like I've given her the tools to self soothe.


There are folks (including my Mom and mother-in-law) who completely disagreed with our decision/approach to sleep training but my husband and I did what we felt was in the best interest of our baby. I don't think it's fair for people to judge from the outside since every child is so different and every set of parents are different.


While it went against every bone in my body to let Taz cry at all while sleep training, yes, in the process I felt like a monster, I now know it was the best thing we could have done for her.


Taz is nearly 7.5 months and still sleeps 11.5 to 12 hours straight each night. She goes to sleep between 6:30pm - 7pm and wakes between 6:30am-7am.  And most importantly she is a well-rested super happy child! She turns into miss grumpy pants when she missed a nap or we put her to bed a little later than usual.


In the past four months there have been a handfull of times where I needed to go in to get her (i.e. When she wasn't feeling well, her room was too cold, her lovey wasn't in her crib). There are still some nights when Taz will wake up and play in her crib, talking to herself, kicking, cooing but she is comfortable doing this on her own and luckily doesn't cry. Eventually she just goes back to sleep. I consider myself lucky.

Bedtime is no longer a battle. It's quite calming and enjoyable. Complete opposite from the days when it would take hours just to get her to sleep and there'd be no naps during the day.


At night, we have a routine where we change Taz's diaper, put her in her jammies and sleep sack (I'm a huge fan of the Cloud B sacks) and then watch 10 min of an Einstein Video, although as of last night we've transitioned to reading a book. Lastly, we feed Taz a bottle and then place her in her crib awake but super drowsy and she goes to sleep for the night.


She is pretty good about taking two naps a day. One morning nap around 9am between one to two hours and an afternoon nap around 1pm for one to two hours.  Taz loves her crib so unfortunately this means that I plan most of our daily activities around her nap schedule. While I would love to be able to tote her around with me and have her sleep in her stroller I don’t mind sticking with a predictable schedule…that is on most days. We break routine for special activities but always get back on track the following day.


The strategies in the book, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child  are helpful and one of the strategies is very similar to how I was able to get Taz to sleep. I still refer to this book often. I know that all babies are different and that sleep training doesn't work for everyone. I'm just sharing my positive experience with sleep training. So please don't judge me. We are all parents and we are all doing the best that we can. The decisions I make are not made half heartedly but with thoughtfulness, research, options available, potential impact on Taz and most important my motherly instinct, which I’ve learned to trust and rely on.


Have you had to do any sleep training? If so, what technique did you use and did it work?