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Entries in pregnant (20)

Tuesday
Oct302012

It’s a Boy!

 

This is how we found out. Less than a week ago my husband and I found out that we’re having a boy. I had the ultrasound technician stuff the gender in an envelope so that my husband and I could find out together that evening. 

I was shocked. I honestly had no idea I was pregnant with a boy. I had convinced myself of the joys of another girl and also thought about the joys of a boy. If I had girl, I could give Reese a sister that I never had and I could take them out for tea - this would be our thing. If I had a boy, I could give my husband a little boy that he could dress up so adorably (my husband loves fashion and has great style). That’s not to say I wouldn’t take my little boy for tea because I will if he has any interest.

So now that it’s confirmed we’re having a boy, I am really excited. I have no idea what the experience will be like but I am sure it will be new, challenging and fun! I grew up with three brothers and have seen first hand that boys have a lot of energy! My daughter has a ton of energy too so I’m hoping this has prepared me for what’s to come.

If you have a little boy, what is one thing I need to know about them?

Sunday
Sep302012

We’re Having a Baby...Again

 

My husband and I are excited to finally share the news that I’m pregnant with baby No. 2 due in March. I’m almost 15 weeks pregnant. We can’t wait to find out if we’re having a girl or a boy. I’ve never been one for surprises so why start now? 

This pregnancy has been way different than my first. When I was pregnant with Reese I had didn’t experience morning sickness and felt pretty great the entire time, aside from being tired. This time around weeks 6-12 were tough with morning sickness that lasted all day, every day. It was like having a massive hangover for six weeks straight but without any fun stories from the previous night.

During my first pregnancy I had a massive aversion to meat, poultry and fish. I couldn’t stand the smell or sight of it. This time, all I wanted to eat was meat. It’s strange how the body wants what the body wants.

Finally, around 12 weeks I finally started to feel better and now I’m feeling pretty good. I’ve heard that with your second child you tend to show sooner than with your first and I’m finding that to be true. Bummer! I’ve already “popped” and am wearing maternity pants.

Anyway, that’s the big news! For anyone with two kids or who is pregnant with No. 2, were your pregnancies the same or different? 

Wednesday
May022012

Labor? Not Now Honey, I'm Too Tired

 

Last night I was certain my water had broken and that I felt contractions. It was close to 10 p.m. Clayton's response: 

Clayton: Do you think it's labor? 

Me: Not sure. 

Clayton: Do you want to go to bed?

Me: Yeah okay. 

We both figured that if labor did come on, we would eventually get out of bed but we were too tired to drive to the hospital to see. Pathetic.

This made me realize that no matter when Baby #2 comes, I'm going to be too tired for labor. I wish I could schedule this delivery like I schedule a facial - when I am showered, and good and ready for some rest and relaxation. 

So how do moms of toddlers manage to deliver a second baby? The logistics alone are making me crazy. I have emergency babysitters, and backup emergency babysitters for Mo, as well as a long list of instructions for caring for him while I'm away. But how do I get myself ready? I'm too damn tired! 

If Baby were to come tonight, I would be far too exhausted and sore to go to the hospital. It isn't like labor with my first. I was well rested and well groomed. If my water broke tonight, the coversation would go something like this: 

Me: So my water broke.

Clayton: Really? So what does that mean? Do we have to go to the hospital tonight?

Me: Yeah, the baby can't go more than 24 hours without fluid in there. 

Clayton: So we have about 23 hours then. Wanna go to bed? 

Me: Yeah okay. 

Friday
Apr272012

Sprinkle Sprinkle Little Star

 

Early in this pregnancy, I mused about having a shower for second babies. Wow, there are a lot of opinions about this! One friend was candid enough to say, "You're not supposed to because it means you're greedy."

Well perceptions be damned! I went ahead and had a shower for this baby but we didn't call it a Shower. We called it a Sprinkle... as in the mommy is given a "sprinkling" of gifts that the baby might need.

In my family, we always threw showers for every baby, first or fourth. So naturally I wanted one too but I was also nervous what people might think of me. In hindsight, I could care less. My new baby deserves the same "ooohing" and "aaaahing" that my oldest had. So we Sprinkled!

Some suggested that I not register. Well, that seemed a bit silly and semantical to me too. Why split hairs? If we are doing a gift-giving event, can't I choose a few things that I want for this baby the same way I did for the first? Nathalee has gone the more PC route and created an Amazon Wishlist, which is the same concept. Her new baby needs things. Shouldn't she be able to choose the right ones?

When we sent out invitations, I wondered if our guests would understand the name of the event. They figured it out. Most people brought small items like burp cloths and toys, which are much appreciated, and told me that they understood the concept. 

We had games and prizes and food, much like my first shower. We also had activities for the kids because there were a lot more toddlers present this time around - including all the BabyBetas!

I printed some blank onesies and bought crayons and stickers for the kids to decorate and that was a hit. An even bigger hit were Annie's Cheddar Bunnies. The BabyBetas couldn't get enough of these! My mom called them the star of the party!

My sister and I had found these really cute favors on Pinterest that inspired us to make bags of popcorn that said, "Ready to pop." My sister made homemade kettle corn and we handed them out to guests as they left. 

My stepmother made a punch with rubber ducks floating in it - another Pinterest find! And we ordered Mexican food and a red velvet cake at my request - one of the main reasons I wanted a party in the first place!! After all, what is the fun of being pregnant, if you can't have some cake to celebrate??

So second (or third, fourth, fifth) time mommies, reject the convention that says you can't have a party for subsequent pregnancies. Of course you can! Anyone who finds that offensive is not your friend! You have a new person coming into this world and that new person deserves celebration in the same spirit that your first child was celebrated. So I hereby say: "Let them have cake!"

Thursday
Nov172011

Baby #2: No Cake For You? 

 

In this week's MommyBeta Podcast, we discuss whether or not it is vulgar to have a baby shower for your second (or third or fourth...) babies. This is something that I may be a little too opinionated about so allow me to pontificate and feel free to pontificate back in the comments. 

I had never heard that it was uncouth to have a shower for a second baby until I became pregnant with Baby #2. My dad's wife was the one who brought it up, informing me that it was considered rude. Rude??  

I asked my mother-in-law and sister-in-law and they both agreed that this is tradition. They thought that a second shower would reflect poorly on them as if they were trying to get more stuff out of people. My mother-in-law said she would feel uncomfortable throwing my sister-in-law another shower. 

WHAT!? 

What kind of people would judge my sweet mother-in-law for wanting to throw her only daughter a shower if/when she is pregnant again? They don't have to attend! But would they judge for wanting to celebrate a new child? Are those the kind of people we call friends? 

The first baby shower was certainly not to "get stuff out of people." It was to celebrate our newest addition, wasn't it? The stuff is a bonus. 

Why would anyone begrudge someone the right to celebrate a new baby? Babies are brand new people! They need a few things in this world. Given, second-time-moms don't need swings, swaddles, bottles, etc. But they need a few new things. Must Baby #2 be forever relegated to hand-me-downs from the get-go? And no cake? No games? No festivities AT ALL for Baby #2?? 

One point I especially appreciated in The Girlfriends' Guide To Pregnancy was that every baby should be celebrated equally. Why should Baby #2 receive zero fanfare just because Baby #1 fertilized the egg first? 

In my family, we have showers for every baby that joins our ranks - from 1 to 5. We never expect huge extravagant presents. We just expect that everyone will want to ooh and aah over baby stuff and celebrate motherhood together. What is so vulgar about that?  

I was speaking to a friend of Colombian decent recently about this topic. She seemed to think this was a cultural issue. 

"Hispanics have showers for every baby," she said. "I think not having them is an American thing." 

But Americans register for wedding gifts even when they have been cohabiting and don't need "stuff" like flatware and toasters. And they throw extravagant weddings for Marriage #2. So why does the second child get so short changed? 

My Colombian friend said that she had recently attended a "Sprinkle" for a friend who was pregnant with Baby #2. It is a play on the word "shower." You don't need to be "showered" in gifts but you can ask for a sprinkling of them. Kind of a cute semantical solution if you're worried about being offensive - which in the end, I am not. My mom wants to throw me another shower and I may do a small registry as well. Is that so rude?

I am not one for tradition so it would stand to reason that I break with convention with this no-second-baby-shower rule. But I would like to say on behalf of second-time mommies everywhere that I think the no-second-shower rule is total crap and should be thrown in the diaper genie. We should be able to celebrate the brand new person growing inside of us! And if you find that offensive, you can tell him/her that they don't deserve a party because they are the youngest and it is considered vulgar. Go ahead. Say it to this little face!