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Staying Sane During Your Child’s Separation Anxiety


According to BabyCenter Babies can show signs of separation anxiety as early as 6 or 7 months, but the crisis age for most babies peaks between 10 to 18 months. Clingy child. Screaming child [if you leave her sight]. Can't put down child. Sound familiar? How do you deal? I know Nathalee experienced this with Nic for a very brief time. 

Although I’m enjoying this holiday season very much I'm exhausted. I thought my daughter was over the separation anxiety phase but I was wrong. Starting last week I couldn’t walk out of the room without her shrieking. She'd cling to me from the moment she woke to the time she went to bed. I was feeling smothered. 

At first I didn't mind when she'd run up and hug me, both arms wrapped around my neck as tight as she could. But then she wouldn't let go. If I tried to put her down she'd cry incessantly. If someone else tried to come near her she'd cry. My brother was over for Christmas dinner and witnessed her behavior and said, "Gosh, I feel bad for you." From his perspective I am a slave to my child. And it's partly true.

It's taxing. What's funny is that my Mom tells me that I was the exact same way...only worse. She said I'd cry at the top of my lungs anytime anyone would enter our home. I guess it's pay back? :) I just have to remember that it's a phase and it shall pass. Right? 

BabyCenter suggests that separation anxiety usually eases by the time babies are 24 months old. Ahhhh! That seems like a long time, doesn’t it? Well good news for me is that I can already see that after two weeks, Reese is starting to calm down…a little.

This BabyCenter article offers some really good tips on how to help your baby through this phase and also how to prep them for the non-negotiable separations. Here are some highlights but check out the article for full details.

  • Let your baby get to know a new caregiver first. 
  • Practice at home. 
  • Build in time for your baby to get comfortable.
  • Always say goodbye. 
  • Once you leave, leave. 

Any other tips? 


Separation Anxiety—HELP!


We’ve been lucky that Nic’s never been the kid who cried when we left him with grandma (grandma is gratefulImage by TacitRequiem on Flickr. Used under Creative Commons. for this too!).  However, just in the past few days, naps and bedtime (and getting back to sleep in the middle of the night) have become a major struggle.  Separation anxiety has finally set in.  He clings to me, tries to climb up my arms and cries “MAMAMAMAMAMA.”  It breaks my heart, but I know I can’t sleep with him on the couch every night (like I did the other night).

So, what do I do?  At nap time yesterday, I waited intervals of about 15 minutes, went back into his room, gave him a big hug and then left.  After two times (and some Ke$ha) he fell asleep.  Is this the right approach?  Other suggestions?