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MommyBeta Podcast Episode 20: Stakes On A Plane

What are the stakes for flying with a lap baby? Should you wear your baby during take off and landing or not? And should you pay your nanny when you're on vacation? We discuss all of this, plus Natali's post about how to edit together your videos a bit more professionally. 

Also, watch Baby Mo's favorite They Might Be Giants videos here and here


Baby Carrier on Take-Off and Landing?


I’m fresh off of the return flight from a long weekend visiting my parents, and I’m a bit ticked off.  Just prior to landing, one of the flight attendants told me that I needed to remove Nic from the Ergo for landing.  I told her that I always fly with him in the Ergo (especially during takeoff and landing) because that way he is at least strapped into something.  She said it was an FAA regulation and that he was not allowed to be in the carrier for takeoff and landing.   Mind you, this was the fourth takeoff/landing we’d done on this trip alone, and no one had had mentioned this previously.  In fact, in all of our travels, I’ve only had one other flight attendant say something about him being in the Ergo.

I’m not one to defy authority, but as politely as possible, I explained that I felt he was safer in the Ergo and that I was going to keep him there.  I also explained this to her superior when she came to our seat.  Nic stayed in the Ergo, we landed, and that was the end of it.

But not really.  Because I want to know where he is safer and if the FAA really has such a regulation.  From everything I’ve read, the reason main reason that it’s dangerous for babies to fly as “lap children” is because of the risk of them flying out of their parents arms because they are not secured.  The Ergo seems to solve this problem and that’s why it seems safer to me.  After some Googling, it seems like the regulations are unclear and I couldn’t find any additional safety information.



  • Do you put your child in a carrier for takeoff and landing?
  • Has anyone ever told you that you can’t have your child in a carrier for takeoff and landing?  Have you complied?
  • Does anyone know the official rules and if there is safety data to back them up?


I received this comment when I posted this story to my personal Facebook page.  I found it very helpful:

"Sadly, it's true. As a flight attendant for the last 11.5 years, I can confirm that this is indeed an FAA regulation and she was just the messenger having to enforce the rule that the FAA put into place. She can personally be fined if she does not atleast try to enforce the rule. Believe me, you aren't the first or last parent to disagree with this regulation. Unfortunately, they found that in the case of an accident, you are more likely to be flung forward and crush your child if they are in a carrier. =( Your friend Lhia is correct. The safest place for your darling cargo is buckled up all snug in a car-seat next to you. Just as you would have them in a car. I understand where you were coming from, however she was just doing her job. Next time keep in mind, you and she can both be fined for not complying with an FAA regulation. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news."

It seems like everyone agrees that there's no really safe way to hold/restrain a lap child.   Nic's about to outgrow the under two limit, but I think I'm really going to consider buying a seat for baby #2 (when there is a baby #2).  As painful as it would be for the wallet, it really sounds like the best way to go.



Why I’ll Never Fly with Disposables Again


It’s official.  I HATE disposable diapers.  I just got back from a great short vacation (more on that later!), and this little trip has convinced me (and my husband) that cloth diapers rule.  We made the unfortunate decision to go the ‘sposie route while we were gone, and man, did that have repercussions.  

Flying with a super active toddler is definitely a team sport—I wear Nic in the Ergo as long as he can stand it, and then Shaun and I switch off holding him while the other person does whatever they can to occupy him.  This doesn’t sound so bad, unless you have to do it soaked in urine like we did.Nic, taking a break from peeing on Mommy and Daddy.

You see, disposables and the Ergo’s straddle position just don’t seem to mix for us.  About 10 minutes into our first flight, I felt very warm and wet all of the sudden.  The pee had come straight out the side of the Ergo and onto my belly.  Awesome.  A little while later, Shaun got surprised by a big wet spot on his lap.  And that was just our way to our destination.  The return flight resulted in me being peed on twice more.  (My non-mommy friends might freak out when they find out that I just let the pee dry instead of changing my clothes--they find my level of comfort with bodily fluids to be disconcerting).  

So maybe it’s us—perhaps we don’t put the diaper on right, or we’re not using the best ones for him, but seriously, we might as well have let him go commando on the flights.  All I know is that I’m going to do whatever I can to avoid flying in ‘sposies again.

And the fact that we also had an up-the-back blowout in the grocery store really reinforces my love for cloth.  It’s almost impossible to blowout of those bad boys!


MommyBeta Podcast Episode 11: Boobie Dolls

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This week we discuss surviving our first first birthday parties, using "mama cloth," and that annoyingly controversial breast milk doll

We also give some tips for prepping your toddler to be in a wedding, and traveling with a baby

And finally, we discuss supporting nursing mommies and Natali's little victory of breastfeeding for 1 year. Jennifer mentions an article that discusses the negative perception of breast feeding mommies.Here it is and we think it is total crap.

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"Managing" Grandparents 


Reese is the luckiest girl because she has 5 grandparents (3 grandmas and 2 grandpas). Two sets live in Colorado and my Mom lives about 1.5 hours away. They are all really involved and my husband and I are fortunate to have amazing parents.  

My challenge comes in trying to make sure each grandparent feels involved, that they each get an equal amount of Reese time, and that no one feels left out. Let me tell you it's a lot of work and I feel so pressured to try not to hurt anyone's feelings.

For example, if one grandparent (or set of grandparents) babysit, I make sure another gets a turn. We try to see each set at least once a month but even this proves to be tricky.

I’m wondering how others deal with multiple grandparents. While none of them have come out and said anything about how our time is spent with the others, I know it's at the top of everyone's mind. 

Here are a few things that we're doing to try to mitigate any hurt feelings and keep Reese’s grandparents as involved as possible!

  • Split time during the holidays - This year we're splitting our time between Colorado and California for the holidays. We'll spend Thanksgiving in Co and Christmas in CA and switch next year. It would just be too much on us to try to do three Thanksgivings, 2 Christmas’s and 1 Hanukkah.
  • Alternate babysitting opps - Since we have so many weddings to go to and we enjoy taking Reese, we invite one set of grandparents or grandparent to join - alternating between the three to give each an opportunity to hang out with Reese.
  • Inundate with updates - Share as much information as possible. We have a blog for Reese that I try to post pics and updates every other day if not daily this way everyone is up to day on the latest and greatest. 

We’ve been really lucky so far that we haven’t run into any big issues with the way we’re handling things and so far they all understand that while most of the time we try to split our time evenly / be fair, sometimes we have to do what makes most sense for us.

Any other tips I can try?